09/05/13 @ 09:56pm
■ i completely adore this
25/02/13 @ 06:17pm
■ this makes a lot of sense actually
“Why is Reddit so Anti-Women?” Fascinating (and highly sensical) approach here, underscoring what gets lost when education (policy) is viewed as strictly the science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM) fields (the globally profitable/innovation-driven ones) at the expense of social/cultural education. (via marathonpacks)
AND reinforcing the overall White maleness of STEM fields. Vicious cycle, that.
19/11/12 @ 06:45pm
■ accurate as hell
did you know females don’t have to be tough to be a good character
07/11/12 @ 01:08am
■ usa election 2012
■ american politics
■ todd aiken
■ tw: rape
■ AW YISS
■ his loss was so sweet
27/10/12 @ 12:00pm
■ this is one of my biggest complaints about when people try to write 'strong female characters'
■ it doesn't have to be a SUPERPOWERED BADASS WITH A COLD GAZE WHO DON'T NEED NO MAN
■ it just needs to be a strong character who is female
also i think that a lot of people misinterpret the term “strong female character”
strong doesn’t mean independent or anything like that. it means a character of significance who operates autonomously in a story rather than being a cog in a plot or subplot wheel
it means strong in terms of literary merit, not in terms of personality or anything like that
16/07/12 @ 04:05pm
■ this is the saddest of things when it happens
when fic completely erases every single female character from it
08/07/12 @ 01:38am
■ emiliana replies to things
■ tw: rape
■ rape culture
■ wow I'm having thinky thoughts about this tonight
|I read quite an interesting article about how men fear that they will be judged/rejected by a woman, while woman fear that they will be killed by a man. i didn't think much about it until i was walking alone one night and a guy was walking towards me and i become instantly guarded and scared. i think it is rather disgusting that females have become scared to just go walking (not to say some males aren't) but it is more found in females.||◤||
It actually makes me super frustrated that I feel so worried about it. That I get anxious about sexual assault just for the simple act of going walking at night with no one else around.
I shouldn’t have to feel that way. But I do, and I know that other people do, and it just really sucks.
06/07/12 @ 10:12am
■ nice guys
■ tw: sexism
■ this is admittedly a very heteronormative post
■ but frankly even if you're queer bi trans or a lesbian you can still run into Nice Guys who blame you for not liking them back
Every time I see a post by a Nice Guy, it’s always the same story. “I was friends with a woman, and I had feelings for her, and instead of returning my feelings, she ran off with a string of hot skeezy assholes and left me to sit on the sidelines.”
Here is a thing I’ve hardly ever heard a woman say: “You know, I was friends with this guy and he just kept dating all these other hot, slutty chicks instead of realizing that I was standing right there. All guys are insensitive and unfeeling assholes, and I’m too good for them.” And I don’t think that women don’t say that because that never happens. It does happen. It’s happened to me. I’ve been friends with guys and had feelings for them that they didn’t return. It happens to everyone.
But here’s the difference: instead of thinking that there is something wrong with the guy we’re pining/lusting after and that he might be a dickhead (which may well be true), women are taught from a very early age (in a way that men are absolutely not) that the problem is internal. “Five Ways to Make Him Notice You.” “Are You Sending Off the Right Signals?” “Wow Him in Ten Words or Less.” Women are absolutely INUNDATED with the message that male attention is something that we must earn and then fight to keep, and if this is true, then I think I realize your problem, Nice Guy.
Men are not inherently deserving of female attention.
Let me repeat that for you, just in case you missed it.
Men are not inherently deserving of female attention. And similarly, women do not always WANT male attention. Women OFTEN do not want male attention. If your advances are unwelcome, that doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with you. (Though to be honest, you seem like a dick.) I know the media has convinced you it’s true, Nice Guy, but women do not constantly crave male approval and validation.
I was out with my family one night and a male friend of mine was trying and failing to get the twist-off cap off a bottle of beer, and when I reached over and unscrewed it for him (because he is an idiot), my aunts and mother all looked at me with a certain level of concern in their eyes and said, “That’s not something you’d do if you were out at a bar, is it? Or with someone you were dating?”
Firstly, as I’ve mentioned, I do not spend all of my time hoping that the guy across from me is going to want to fuck me. Secondly, anyone who is intimidated enough by me unscrewing his beer is not really someone I feel the need to spend an extended amount of time with. And thirdly, if unscrewing his beer is a dealbreaker, there’s a whole shitload of things about me I guarantee he isn’t going to like. But I think maybe you’ve been secretly hanging out with my older female relatives, Nice Guy, because they seem to think (as you do) that I am trying to please you all the time.
Spoiler alert: I am not.
There’s a certain level of women’s behavior that is always expected to be performative, to be for the benefit of others; specifically, to be for the benefit of men. But I have never heard a guy internalize his romantic frustration in the way that women are taught and encouraged to do. And that’s so gross to me, the notion that women are inherently wanting and men are inherently deserving. It’s gross to me, Nice Guy, that you are comfortable enough with your misogynistic, bullshit entitlement to utter it out loud, where people can hear you, and that you would expect me to give any kind of shits about whether or not I’ve hurt your feelings.
It’s gross to me, Nice Guy. You’re gross to me, Nice Guy. And that’s just one of the many, many reason why I will not fuck you.
There are all sorts of wonderful, lovely and nice guys in the world. And then there are the Nice Guys, and those really aren’t the same thing at all.
This is an extremely thoughtful and straightforward description of something that’s way too prevalent.
21/06/12 @ 09:55pm
■ emiliana replies to things
■ nonners wants some help
■ body image
■ plastic surgery
|Oh, you angel. Okay, so this is just me being whiny and about social acceptance in a way. Well, society has a negative view of plastic surgery even though tons of people get it. And I happened to get it for a good reason: I didn't have a mammary gland in one breast. So, I essentially had an A cup and a DD. So, I had the surgery to get them both DD. And now I'm confident and happy! But, I have this fear of people judging me because one of them "isn't real". And I just would like your opinion. :)||◤||
Hey, nonners. <3
I absolutely think that whatever makes you most comfortable with your own body is the most important thing in this situation. You were in a position where, for legitimate medical reasons, you felt uncomfortable enough in your own body that you had a serious procedure done. And I couldn’t be more delighted that you’re confident and happy now!! People who judge you for getting that surgery done can go fuck themselves: they don’t know what it was like for you before, and they’re in absolutely no position to judge you for doing something that’s made you so much happier.
Plus, I’m fairly certain that a lot of women in your situation would consider going down the same path, and that’s totally fine. I know that for myself personally, the one situation that comes to mind where I would consider getting plastic surgery on my breasts would be if I were to hypothetically lose one to cancer. Some women would chose to do that, some wouldn’t. And that’s okay.
In the end? It’s your body. Anyone who tries to shame you or make you feel bad about what you do with your own body should probably fuck right off.
02/06/12 @ 09:39am
■ john green
■ hank green
■ green brothers
■ nerd fighters
■ dr pepper
10/05/12 @ 05:34pm
■ laci green
■ sex positive
■ sex plus
■ sex +
■ gender identity
■ clothing iron
■ I ONLY USE RAZORS INFUSED WITH DANGER
■ new reaction gif awww yeah
■ emiliana makes gifs
■ my gifs